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How to Text a Girl: Don’t Be Boring4 minute read

Have you ever met a woman and everything seemed to be going great, only for her to leave you in agony by ghosting through text? Only for it to leave you wondering “How to text a girl you like?”

 It’s an infuriating and sadly inevitable part of dating. Women are more fickle than the weather at times.

Having said that, there are some simple catastrophes you can avoid while texting women to keep this disastrous disappointment to a minimum.

Warning: Are You Boring Her?

This is perhaps the biggest texting sin that men commit when texting women. Something that will MURDER your chances when texting women.

And that fatal flaw that leaves men scrambling to put out fires they created is this: being overly serious and boring.

Women like stoic men. Men also like emotional guys. Women just go crazy for guys in general. But women don’t like men who are overly serious.

What’s the difference?

Here’s the difference, even stoic men find ways to tease women and get them turned on.

They still find ways to have fun (at least, the successful-with-women ones do). Which is doubly important if you’re meeting her through an app like Tinder, where some light teasing is mandatory to getting her out on a date with you.

But instead of talking at you about how to text a girl I’m going to show you some examples:

How to Text a Girl Examples

  • Backstory: this is a woman I met with a friend at the zoo and we hit if off. Because it’s fun for me, I ended up taking some candy wrappers and putting them in her hood. She playing along and throughout the night we kept trying to stash them on each other. 

That’s an example of being playful with women in real life.

It doesn’t have to be some glorious ordeal. Instead, do something that you find particularly rib-tickling.

Channel your inner eight year old and amuse yourself. Have fun and run with it which can also be said on how to text a girl. The women that like you will love it while the ones that don’t like you will run away.

Which is EXACTLY what we want! 

Now, on this example what you don’t see is that she sent me a GIF (it was a little dog pestering a tiger and the tiger didn’t give a shit at all). I shared my thoughts and she related her own to me. Nothing fancy here, just relating to each other. 

Then she sent a follow-up:

thats mee right theree haha i may be lil but i dont careee!!!. 

Seeing that, I immediately used this to tease her.

I did this by calling her the ‘little turd pestering the tiger’. It’s obvious that I’m joking which keeps it from being mean. This is fun for women and when you do it, it will show off so many ravenously racy things about you.

After that I took it a little bit further by telling her to make me hush, making it somewhat sexual.

This shows her that I’m not afraid to act on my sexual desires. It lets her know that this isn’t a strictly ‘friendly’ interaction. I don’t just jump into sexualizing everything, and even this is a light example. 

This is how you want to start with things; slowly and with subtlety. 

It’s like a small play, there’s a beginning (some light chitchat). Then comes the middle where you can make a few raunchy jokes (and getting her anxiously awaiting the kinky delights to come). Followed with the climax of you two together.

Back to The Example on How to Text a Girl

After that, she asked about the wrappers because there was nowhere else to take the conversation.

This tells me that she likes me a lot.

First; she complimented me, always a great thing. Second; the follow-up text message is her way of keeping the interaction going. She wants more and she’s willing to invest herself to get more from me. 

Because of this high degree of interest I went further by calling myself a ‘sexy dork’. This is me ‘misinterpreting‘ what she said and taking it one step further. 

Normally you don’t want to do this, but because of her high degree of interest I went for it just to solidify that idea of me in her mind.

It also acknowledges her compliment so she doesn’t feel ignored. Because when women are chasing you this much they’ll be watching for signs if you like her or not. And if she feels like you might not like her at all then she’ll pull back to save face. Like everything in life, it’s all about balance. 

After that we started chatting about the candy wrappers to help bring the interaction down a little bit. You don’t want to keep piling on the sexual humor. It’s like a potent spice, you only need a little bit.

That’s it for today!

I will have a few more posts about texting up soon, so keep an eye out for them! 

If you don’t want to wait and want to start getting more dates now, then check out the full book “Warning: Are You Committing One of These Texting Sins?

It’s only three dollars.

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-Alexander

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