- Disclaimer: I am not being paid to do this. I have not received anything to write a review. I am writing this review because to give you guys more viewpoints on meeting women. Areas like meeting women while out and about during the day, commonly referred to as ‘daygame’. I am currently growing this skill and I want to show you guys other places you can go to, to get more information on more ways to meet women. I’ll be doing an ongoing series reviewing different people in the industry so you can get more information on different things. Some of which will work better for you than online dating, and that’s okay. I’m here to help you guys however I can and this is one way to do that, by giving you more sources of information to use for your own life. Enjoy 🙂
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Have you ever been going about your day, looked over and discovered that there was an absolute stunning woman in your line of sight?
Maybe it was in a coffee shop, perhaps it was while you were walking down the street and you made eye contact for what felt like hours. In reality it was only a few seconds but it probably left an impact on you.
Sometimes it doesn’t, sometimes it does.
But it’s something that we’ve all experienced. I’ve certainly experienced it, even back before I would have had the courage to do anything about it.
I’ve talked to quite a few men, especially on Quora where they haven’t done anything about it either. It’s okay that you haven’t. It’s scary the first few times you even try.
I still remember when I tried talking to a woman the first few times. And, like my first date, it didn’t turn out well…
But this is a valid way of meeting women, once you learn what goes into it. I myself still have to work on this skill a little more before I feel qualified to talk about it in-depth with you guys.
Because of that, I’m doing a review of Nash from DaysofGame.com
Days of Game: Meeting Women While Going About Your Day
What you will notice first about this site is that he shares a lot of his outings on his blog. He shares his successes as well as some of his failures. He’s always trying to end on a positive note to teach something new in every post or share an insight of his own. This, to me, is not only highly inspiring but also feels genuine.
Because not even the best in the business are going to be ‘on’ all the time. Nobody is going to be 100% at all times. And yet he still has a colossal amount of successes from meeting women randomly in the day.
This means that you can too.
He is also very upfront about the fact that it’s not due to his own looks. By his own admission he isn’t the best looking guy in the world and he is also in his forties. Yet despite these setbacks, he still keeps going. He also gets rewarded for his persistence.
And that’s what I love most about his blog. The fact that you can follow along in his journey to inspire your own adventures with women, he’s in it with you. You’re not alone.
It feels like you are in it together, because he has a genuine desire to see you succeed.
Because he’s further along in his own journey with women (he started in 2006) he has a lot of insights to pass along to you.
His stories are immensely entertaining and will manage to fill you with a sense of both desire and purpose to get out there and start meeting more women.
When you feel like crap and get depressed (because it will happen when dealing with the fairer, wetter sex) it’s great to take a break and read some of his stories. They’re like a high octane shot of motivation to keep going, to keep moving forward and to keep improving, which you will.
Love vs The Libertine; From Nash
But where his blog really shines, in my humble opinion, are in some of his other posts…
This post starts out talking about one of his friends that inspired this post of his, and he transitions into the lesson of the post through a book he read.
In this post, he starts out with some light praise for the book (though he ultimately hated it for reasons you’ll see by checking out the post).
It starts out with some genuine insights into men and men’s sexuality in general.
We see someone attractive and we want to fuck her. Attraction is exceptionally simple for us guys, but not so for women.
The book acknowledges this.
He then moves onto what happens after the typical guy sees a woman.
Even though the desire for sex is there, society and just being a good person keeps us from basically clubbing her over the head and having our way with her regardless of her own wishes.
Our own satisfaction is delayed.
That is fine, society couldn’t function if we did something as catastrophic as the above.
But what’s not fine is what happens afterwards…
To take a quote from the article and book he is reviewing themselves (Nash’s comments are centered and italicized while the book quotes have a line on the left hand side of it):
A man meets a girl. Despite primal urges, we don’t club her over the head and mount her, but at that point, we’re sufficiently inspired. And what starts as a sexual “urge” is delayed, and as it’s delayed, it takes on more emphasis in our minds.
“[H]umans, unlike other animals, this theory purports, are not governed by instinct: before being consummated, a man’s desire travels from his senses, to his imagination, whereupon it creates a fantasy.”
That’s right. Watch how this works:
“The function of this fantasy is to ‘interpret’ desire, to cause the subject to imagine what it is that he desires. Yet as a fantasy translates a physical arousal into a series of mental images, it also turns a sensual excitation into an attraction to a specific person. While a man fantasizes about the woman he desires, he comes to realize that she too is a desiring subject, and that his own pleasure depends on his ability to communicate his fantasy to her. In other words, fantasies give rise to the specifically human art of seduction.”
There is a lot going on there. Feher is explaining our behavior in interesting terms. Let’s break it down some more.
Nash then goes on to explain that it’s not really about the girl at all. That when we cannot have those desires of ours realized that the object of our desire starts to consume our minds. In other words, the girl that inspired our desires starts to overwhelm our minds and take over entirely!
But something insidious happens shortly after this. Basically, the desire to fuck, which is completely natural, gets relocated from our loins into our imaginations. This is bad.
Because this consumes our desire entirely by wasting it on this girl. A girl, that we don’t even really want. In some cases, a girl that we don’t even know the first thing about.
The book and Nash both argue that this is unnatural, and I agree. It’s unnatural because you end up getting hung up on a girl that might not know you even exist.
This is the infamous friend-zone.
Where a guy will hide his feelings from a girl and become her friend in the hope that one day she will fall in love with him.
When men do this, however, the girl feels nothing but disgust.
This hypothetical guy approached this girl only for friendship, so that’s what she assumed he wanted. Nothing wrong with that. What is wrong with that is that the guy wants more but doesn’t say anything because he’s too afraid to be shot down.
The momentary and short amount of pain that would come from rejection outweighs the future, and possibly years long pining that will happen instead.
This is what is known as ‘one-itis’.
It’s basically where a girl has taken up so much of your mental energy, so much of your emotional investment that you’re unable to even see the good in any other women. Women that would be more than happy to bounce up and down on your cock. More than happy to be your girlfriend.
A woman, that you would be more than happy to be with.
But because of this other girl, this ‘one-itis’ you don’t ever recognize other women. Other women that can be just as good as, if not better than this figment of imagination that no person on the planet can live up to.
If you are going through this yourself, or have gone through this it’s okay. It’s perfectly fine to admit that this has happened to you.
It’s happened to me.
It’s happened to a lot of insanely accomplished seducers.
At this point, it’s kind of a fact of life for this to happen at least once.
And that’s fine.
But we do need to move past this. And that’s what learning how to meet and seduce women will help you with.
It will keep you from wasting years upon years of your life on something that will never be.
That’s what I’m here to help you with, and that’s what Nash wants to help you with.
I won’t spoil the rest of that article for you, but those are the points that I needed to highlight. I encourage you to check out that article because it’s a great look into what happens to men who don’t build this skill.
It’s a difficult skill to build. It sucks in the beginning. It’ll make you want to give up, it’ll even make you cry at some point. It’s impossible to skip these stages, and it sucks.
But learning all you can and then getting out there to practice it all will move you past this stage as quickly as possible.
Instead of taking 4+ years to learn this skill, you could instead learn it in a year.
Think of how many women you would miss out on in those years, what would that mean for your life?
That’s the first article that I wanted to cover, but there’s one more that I want to go over that will help you guys. In the industry, there are a few different groups that women put men into.
I disagree with the names that Nash uses, as this is a review from another guy that he is doing. But the concepts and comments and insights are gold.
Invisible Men; Datable Men and Hot Guys
Let’s start with a rather hurtful quote. It hurts because it’s true, and it goes straight for the jugular. But it’s necessary to start with:
The great mass of men are simply invisible, like furniture or cattle. They exist only to do the girl’s homework at college, help her with her shopping, fix a tire, pay taxes, and defend the borders. Most men are nothing but pack horses, and thus sexually invisible. That’s not to say women harbour any ill intention towards them, they just treat them as non-sexual creatures, beasts of burden
These are the ‘invisibles’ in his post. The guys I learned from simply called these men ‘friends’. They’re friends because they don’t have any sexual value to women. Women don’t want to date these men and they certainly don’t want to fuck them.
And it doesn’t matter how good you get with women, you will be invisible to some women some of the time. But, if you do get good with women you will be invisible to far less women than the average man.
Nash goes on in the article to talk about the next category of men. The category of men that I prefer to call ‘providers’ and that Nash calls ‘the dateables’.
Basically, these types of men are the kinds of men that women would love to date because of what these men can do for them.
It’s not because these men drive women crazy (in a good way), it’s because they might be rich. Basically, a woman settles for this guy because of what he can do for her.
This is where we get into the stereotypes of gold diggers.
And I don’t blame women for this. If a woman wanted to shower me with money and gifts I’d certainly think about dating her. She would probably wear me down if she was persistent too.
It’s the same for women. They don’t have any other available options so they settle for these kinds of guys because of the ‘extras’.
I feel bad for these kinds of men, because it must suck to have someone be with them not because of who they are as a person, but because of their wallet. This is what ultimately inspired me in my own journey, and part of my passion for trying to reach as many men as possible.
I want more men to experience what it’s like to be in the next category of men. What Nash’s article refers to as ‘hot guys’ and what I will refer to as ‘lovers’.
This is your stereotypical bad boy. Women love him even though he barely lifts a finger for them.
That’s what happens on the outside. What outsiders don’t see is how this guy makes her feel, which is ultimately all that a woman cares about: how she feels.
It’s this category of men that I want to help get you into, that Nash and a whole world of other people want to help get you into. It’s also what Nash dives into in the article, much more in-depth than what I’ve done here.
Right now, as I told you in the beginning, my own skills with meeting women during the day still needs work. I can get some successes here and there, but nothing as consistent as I want it. My realm of expertise is online dating.
If instead of online dating you are curious about meeting women during the day, then check out Days of Game.
And if you want to learn more about what it takes to become a ‘hot guy’ then check out that article of Nash’s, linked here again for easy access.
Until next time, keep moving forward
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