What if She Doesn’t Respond to Your Tinder Message? Did She Even Read it?

You worked on your pictures and you got a match, awesome! When you start to things finally working that’s when you start building wins.

This is a short blog post since it’s been a while since I posted. I’ve been working so hard on the course I made for you guys. It’s everything about online dating.

If you need to get your own online dating process down then check out the best course on online dating on the planet. 

Or even the introductory version which you can get here. Or just sign up for the free giveaway I give to people for free by clicking here 🙂

Now onto the post, what do you do when a woman doesn’t get back in touch with you? Did she even read your message? This is a hugely popular Quora answer that people love that I wanted to share, enjoy!

Tinder doesn’t include read receipts anymore, unfortunately. The app used to tell you when the person last logged in, but doesn’t do that anymore either.

So that only leaves one way to tell if the other person has been online; and that’s if their location has changed while yours has not.

How to do that:

  1. If they change something on their profile
  2. If they message you back/like one of your messages
  3. If their location changes while yours hasn’t

What I mean by number 3 is that if you use the app in your home or your workplace and the person is 5 miles away. And then you check back in an hour in the same place and they’re 6 miles away you can tell that they’ve been on the app.

Why?

Because the app doesn’t update locations unless they’ve actually used/opened the app

Honestly though, you shouldn’t worry about if they have read your message or not. Give them a few days and then if you want you can send a follow up message (only a single follow-up though). 

That’s what happened with one of the first girls I ever fell in love with. If you send a message and she doesn’t respond, go ahead and give her a minimum of 3 days. You can even go up to a week if you want. 

Then send a follow up message to re-start the chat. You can do this at any point in the conversation, whether it’s on the first message or even if you’ve been chatting a while. 

That’s what happened with that girl I mentioned. She responded to my first message but then didn’t respond to my next one. 

The magical line that got her to re-start the conversation where we then set up a date? “Happy Sunday!”

That’s it, that’s all I sent. That’s all it takes to re-start the conversation. 

Why does this work? 

Because if she’s interested but legitimately forgot to respond but wanted to, then this allows her to easily pick the conversation back up without losing face. This helps her to not feel like an idiot for accidentally blowing you off. 

And just like that you can sometimes skip the rest of your process and get right into the date after that. 

Sadly, this was well before I had my own online dating process down. But even though I was still new at the time we ended up meeting up and were having sex within an hour of meeting each other. It was one of those instant connections that doesn’t happen very often. 

So go ahead and send a follow-up message. You don’t want to send anymore than that because then you’ll look needy. But if you give up after the first obstacle you might just miss out on miss perfect-for-you, and I shudder to think about what would have happened had I not met that girl. 

She changed my life and I wouldn’t be where I am now without having met her. The same is true of her as well, and I wouldn’t have changed a thing about dropping my pride and sending that follow-up 🙂

Keep Moving Forward
-Alexander

P.S. if you still need to get your own online dating process down then check out the best course on online dating on the planet. You can get the full course in the previous link or this one and change your life immediately or you can look into the introductory version and play it safe instead. Either way, don’t miss out on your dream girl like I almost did 🙂 

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Course Coming Soon – How to Triple Your Tinder Matches

Are you frustrated with your online dating efforts? Do you wish you could sleep with more women?

Lately, I’ve been pouring all of my energy into a single project. This project is the end result of four long and hard years. Four years of experimenting, tweaking and testing. Four years of mind-numbing failures and movie worthy successes.

Four years all leading into a course on How to Triple Your Tinder Matches and Sleep with More Women.

This course is the culmination of all of my knowledge on all things online dating. Not only my knowledge as an online dater, but also my experiences and knowledge of photography. That means how to get the best possible pictures imaginable. You’ll learn how to pose your body and what pictures work and why.

The course isn’t finished yet, but I promise to update you when it is.

UPDATE:
The course is finished! Just putting on some final touches! Expect to see a post about it soon! 

Meanwhile, you can get the free, mini-version to help you get started seducing more women by clicking on the button down below.

Keep Moving Forward
-Alexander

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Do You Make These 11 Tinder Mistakes?

You open up your Tinder account with a sense of dread… no new notifications.

“Is there even a point to continue mindlessly swiping?” you think to yourself. Or maybe you even think ‘This is never going to work’ (if so I’ve got you covered here).

It’s frustrating.

So let’s go over some of the common reasons that I’ve seen for why some guys have an empty Tinder (or other online dating) account and what to do about it.

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Dating Misadventures: Her Sister Took a Picture of Me With My Junk Out of My Trunk…

Here’s a story that people on Quora love and by far my favorite story, edited with additional info. Here ya go 🙂

I was literally caught with my pants around my ankles before…

I matched this girl on the Tinder app and we talked. We seemed to have online chemistry and we swapped numbers. Nothing too special so far.

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The Most Important Thing in Online Dating

This is a free look into one of the chapters in my upcoming course on online dating (get the free report on messaging women to get dates here). This book is the complete collection of knowledge that I’ve learned on how to get more women using online dating.

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5 Simple Tinder Secrets That Will Get You More Women

Understanding a Woman’s Perspective

When it comes to online dating, this is a typical woman’s perspective:

Even somewhat cute women will be overrun with options. This means that we, as men, have to stand out from the crowd if we want success. Thankfully, the bar is set to such a pathetic standard that it’s not at all that difficult.

Even though the bar is low, we still have to have a good messaging system to schedule dates. Click here to learn how to message women and get more dates

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