What if She Doesn’t Respond to Your Tinder Message? Did She Even Read it?

You worked on your pictures and you got a match, awesome! When you start to things finally working that’s when you start building wins.

This is a short blog post since it’s been a while since I posted. I’ve been working so hard on the course I made for you guys. It’s everything about online dating.

If you need to get your own online dating process down then check out the best course on online dating on the planet. 

Or even the introductory version which you can get here. Or just sign up for the free giveaway I give to people for free by clicking here 🙂

Now onto the post, what do you do when a woman doesn’t get back in touch with you? Did she even read your message? This is a hugely popular Quora answer that people love that I wanted to share, enjoy!

Tinder doesn’t include read receipts anymore, unfortunately. The app used to tell you when the person last logged in, but doesn’t do that anymore either.

So that only leaves one way to tell if the other person has been online; and that’s if their location has changed while yours has not.

How to do that:

  1. If they change something on their profile
  2. If they message you back/like one of your messages
  3. If their location changes while yours hasn’t

What I mean by number 3 is that if you use the app in your home or your workplace and the person is 5 miles away. And then you check back in an hour in the same place and they’re 6 miles away you can tell that they’ve been on the app.

Why?

Because the app doesn’t update locations unless they’ve actually used/opened the app

Honestly though, you shouldn’t worry about if they have read your message or not. Give them a few days and then if you want you can send a follow up message (only a single follow-up though). 

That’s what happened with one of the first girls I ever fell in love with. If you send a message and she doesn’t respond, go ahead and give her a minimum of 3 days. You can even go up to a week if you want. 

Then send a follow up message to re-start the chat. You can do this at any point in the conversation, whether it’s on the first message or even if you’ve been chatting a while. 

That’s what happened with that girl I mentioned. She responded to my first message but then didn’t respond to my next one. 

The magical line that got her to re-start the conversation where we then set up a date? “Happy Sunday!”

That’s it, that’s all I sent. That’s all it takes to re-start the conversation. 

Why does this work? 

Because if she’s interested but legitimately forgot to respond but wanted to, then this allows her to easily pick the conversation back up without losing face. This helps her to not feel like an idiot for accidentally blowing you off. 

And just like that you can sometimes skip the rest of your process and get right into the date after that. 

Sadly, this was well before I had my own online dating process down. But even though I was still new at the time we ended up meeting up and were having sex within an hour of meeting each other. It was one of those instant connections that doesn’t happen very often. 

So go ahead and send a follow-up message. You don’t want to send anymore than that because then you’ll look needy. But if you give up after the first obstacle you might just miss out on miss perfect-for-you, and I shudder to think about what would have happened had I not met that girl. 

She changed my life and I wouldn’t be where I am now without having met her. The same is true of her as well, and I wouldn’t have changed a thing about dropping my pride and sending that follow-up 🙂

Keep Moving Forward
-Alexander

P.S. if you still need to get your own online dating process down then check out the best course on online dating on the planet. You can get the full course in the previous link or this one and change your life immediately or you can look into the introductory version and play it safe instead. Either way, don’t miss out on your dream girl like I almost did 🙂 

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Seduce Like Casanova: Ask ‘Why?’

There she is right in front of you, and she looks stunning. Time seemed to stand still for a second the moment you laid eyes on her, and she smiled at you when she saw you.

Perhaps you’re on a first date with her, or maybe you just saw her across the way and felt your heart start running a mile a minute. Or maybe even came across her profile online (in which case you’ll need to know how to get her on a date with you, get the free report here).

Either way, you need to talk to her. This here could be your future wife, future baby mama or even something else entirely!

But there’s a problem… what the hell do you talk about with women?

That’s what we’re going to dive into today, let’s get started.

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Do You Make These 11 Tinder Mistakes?

You open up your Tinder account with a sense of dread… no new notifications.

“Is there even a point to continue mindlessly swiping?” you think to yourself. Or maybe you even think ‘This is never going to work’ (if so I’ve got you covered here).

It’s frustrating.

So let’s go over some of the common reasons that I’ve seen for why some guys have an empty Tinder (or other online dating) account and what to do about it.

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The Most Important Thing in Online Dating

This is a free look into one of the chapters in my upcoming course on online dating (get the free report on messaging women to get dates here). This book is the complete collection of knowledge that I’ve learned on how to get more women using online dating.

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The Shocking Truth About First Date Locations

You worked up the courage to get her number and she even said yes to a date! Whether you did it while talking to her or through online dating (get the free report on how to message your Tinder matches and get more dates here) doesn’t matter, she said yes!

There’s a feeling of excitement as the day gets closer, but as the day gets closer you’re still not sure where to go…

Or maybe you haven’t gotten that far yet, maybe you just got her number and you’re trying to figure out where to ask her out.

What would make a great date?

Is it a rousing game of mini-golf? Bowling? Dinner and a movie? Or just straight asking her over to your place?

None of the above!

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How to Get Her Attracted to You on a First Date

That Special Spark

Chemistry, that special spark, butterflies in the stomach and who knows what else. It has a lot of different names, but the end result for all of them is the same. It’s a special feeling that most people don’t really know how to describe.

For some, it’s love at first sight. For others, it quickly develops from a small ember into a roaring flame.

Love at first sight does happen, and those moments are very special. In my experience, those moments are often reciprocated and is almost always mutual. When love at first sight happens women are a lot more forgiving of mistakes and they make it easier to get them out on dates with online dating (get the free report on what to message women here).

But what I want to talk about isn’t something that’s blind luck, or based on genetics alone. I’m talking about something that you can master; sexual tension.

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How Quickly Should You Make a Move on a Date?

Should I Wait? 

The TL;DR version is this:

It’s in a woman’s best interest to make a man wait for sex because, in general, men want sex while women want attention. The longer a woman can keep a man’s attention, without giving him what he wants, the better for her.

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Don’t Do These 5 Mistakes on First Dates

Today’s the day! You finally got her out on a date with you!

This girl might be your dream girl or she might not be. Maybe she’s only a hookup, or maybe you’re still not sure yet. Whatever the case may be it’s okay.

But only if you avoid these very common dating mistakes that I myself used to make when I was new and I see men make over and over… You avoid these mistakes and you’ll be light years ahead of most other men.

While this post doesn’t go into it, you’ll also need to meet women (get the free report on how to get more women using online dating) to get her out on a date with you in the first place!

Let’s dive in.

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5 Simple Tinder Secrets That Will Get You More Women

Understanding a Woman’s Perspective

When it comes to online dating, this is a typical woman’s perspective:

Even somewhat cute women will be overrun with options. This means that we, as men, have to stand out from the crowd if we want success. Thankfully, the bar is set to such a pathetic standard that it’s not at all that difficult.

Even though the bar is low, we still have to have a good messaging system to schedule dates. Click here to learn how to message women and get more dates

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What You Need to Succeed With Women

I still remember the first date I’d ever been on in my life.

I was terrified…

I could feel this knot in my stomach as I thought about what I would say. It felt like I was suffocating as I was walking into the Panera Bread she wanted to meet at. I could swear that it took me over an hour to walk from my car to the door.

And when I got there, I couldn’t even grip the handle because my palms were sweating so much.

This was long before I had my full online dating process down (get the free report on messaging your Tinder matches for dates here). Yet there she was… waiting inside for me.

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